Friday 29 August 2008
Sending a child off to uni is a tough thing to do. You know that it is a great opportunity for them, and a life changing experience. But it's so hard to know that if a problem arises, they are a long way from home. I think the way most mums cope with it is to go into extreme 'Mother Hen' mode, making lists of things they need to take, buying those things, checking all the correspondence to make sure they have EVERYTHING sorted in advance and trying to anticipate every little thing they may come up against. We need to know that we have done all we can. It won't bother them if they have to go out and buy a can opener when they get there because it got left off a list but it will matter to us!
You would think that 2nd time around it would be easier - it isn't! When our daughter went to uni 4 years ago I don't think any of us realised what it would be like and there were certainly a lot of ups and downs in that time! We missed her so much, and there were times when she was homesick too. Times when problems occurred and we felt so helpless 150 miles away. But she sorted them and dealt with them and became stronger along the way.
So now it is time for our son to go and our house is becoming full of boxes of 'things'. Things for bedrooms, things for kitchen, things for the course ... So long as I keep busy, remembering to gather together these things, I am still doing my 'mum' job. But I know that on 20 September, when we wave goodbye and start that long drive home from dropping him off, it will feel like a little bit of me has been left behind.
One good thing about 2nd time around is that you have the benefit of experience, knowing that by teaching them independence you have given them the basic tools of looking after themselves. They will cope, they will deal with whatever life throws at them, they will have fun. It is so lovely to have our daughter home again and being a 'hands on' mum again and that makes it easier for when our son goes, but I'm still dreading that long drive home in September!
Thursday 28 August 2008
I can see I am going to have to plan to do more exciting things on the 25th of each month (December shouldn't be a problem!) as I have very little to show for the 25th August!
It had been my daughter's 22nd birthday the day before and I had catered for 12 of her friends before they all went out to a club so I was kind of tired anyway. So add to that a phone call at 2am on Sunday - "Mum, we're just waiting for the taxi and we're STARVING, can you stick some chicken dippers in the oven for when we get home?" Did she realise what the time was?! Or guessed that as she was up and having fun, then the rest of the world must be too! I am not good without sleep so I was tired for my scrapping day, and it seemed that I spent most of it tidying up the house and eating leftovers, before a quiet night in front of the tv.
This was also the day that my son returned from the Reading Festival. 4 days of non stop music, trampling through mud, and camping in a tent. He returned, crumpled, tired, dirty, in need of a shower and hungry! My photos reflect the kind of 'day after the night before' feeling, balloons, half eaten cakes and bits of sequin confetti that decorated the table.
Tuesday 26 August 2008
It was my daughter's birthday on Sunday and she had a dozen friends over in the afternoon and evening before they went out to a club, and I was busy cooking for them. Then Monday was spent just relaxing and tidying up. Not to mention eating up the chocolate birthday cake ;-) My son returned from Reading Festival - very hungry and grubby but he had a great time.
I had decided to start the scrap my day project this month, so took a few pictures and I think I have an idea of what to do but as it was a bit of a 'chill out' day, there isn't much to show for it!
Hopefully I will have something to post soon .....
Friday 22 August 2008
I am still aiming to finish My Freedom by the end of next week .... honest!
Wednesday 20 August 2008
Our daughter has started her first job in London and seems to be enjoying it so far. The 9 - 5.30 working day is a bit of a shock to the system after university days but she appears to be coping even though she is very tired in the evenings. Looking forward to her birthday at the weekend. Surely I'm too young to have a 22 year old 'child'?!
I have promised myself that I will finish the My Freedom pages before the new project starts in September and I am now well on the way to finishing my 'Reflection' layouts. All I need now is a photo to add. I was hoping to draw inspiration from other people's blogs, but it seems no one has done this one yet. Maybe we are all waiting for each other! Or maybe we are all suffering from Scrapbook Block? Hopefully there will be the opportunity to get it done over the Bank Holiday weekend ...
Thursday 14 August 2008
Wednesday 13 August 2008
I have noticed a few people using mosaic pictures in their blogs and I really wanted to have a go at making one myself. I like messing about on the computer so it was a good challenge for me. I have been attracted to neon colours, particularly pink this summer, and so I took a few pics of random pink things and pasted them onto a mosaic. I also loved the black, white and pink papers that I bought so put a sample of those in too. Plus of course the camera with which I took the pictures!
I am so determined to finish 'My Freedom' before I start the new class in September, so I intend to have a go at Reflection tomorrow although have to admit to struggling to know what to put on that one. Tomorrow is A level results day for my son so I can't promise that I will be able to stick to my good intentions, I'm not sure that any of us are going to get much sleep tonight!
Sunday 10 August 2008
When it came to thinking of questions that may have caused me to answer 'maybe' , none immediately sprang to mind. I guess that says something about me and my attitude to life! It is certainly true that once I make a decision I will normally stick with it, although it may take me a little while to reach the decision in the first place.
Hard to believe that this time last week I was on a beach in Portugal, and in between doing bits and pieces towards this project I am having to catch up on boring houseworky bits like ironing. Doesn't help that the house is in chaos because we are having the bathroom replaced. But that is a brilliant excuse for having a very untidy upstairs. Not that I need excuses for being untidy!
So here is another topic ticked off on My Freedom, not many more to go now .....